Your feelings are important.

This post is about love & respect within relationships. I want to tell you ladies something very important, trust your gut and trust your feelings. If something doesn’t feel right, speak up and stand your ground on things that are important to you. If you don’t like something, say it. If you don’t agree with something, say it. Stop being naïve and allowing others to dictate what is right or wrong for you. Also, don’t forget that we all come from different backgrounds and we all have different values.

I have always battled with self-love. That has never been a secret. I am also a victim of abuse. I have been pretty open about it and because of it, I have different insecurities and problems with self-esteem. I have surpassed a lot of them but something always comes up. Because of this, I have settled many times in many areas of my life. For example, in relationships, I put up with stuff that should never be tolerated or accepted.

Today, I want to touch on the subject of respect within a relationship. Think of the word respect. What does that mean for you? To me it means respecting my boundaries, my feelings. I have every right to feel hurt. To feel offended. As an example,  I have the right to tell my partner that I feel hurt that he is looking at other women  when I am right there with him. I have every right to tell my partner that I feel disrespected if he is following something that I find inappropriate. Now, I know I have no control of what he does with what I tell him. Ultimately, I can’t make him stop doing whatever he is doing. He is allowed to do what he wants, right? But ladies, listen carefully, that doesn’t mean that you have to be okay with it. If he chooses to continue to do what is not making you feel respected or loved, then he is showing you just how much he cares about your feelings. He is giving you a clear picture of how he handles something that affects you.

This is the way that I look at things now. Don’t allow your partner to tell you that you are wrong for feeling a certain way about something that is important to you. Each of our individual boundaries and the way we each view respect are all very different and that is okay. What is not okay is for your partner to tell you that you are wrong for what you believe and feel.  Don’t forget, your feelings are important. Hope you liked this read. Now tell me what is your take on this? Please comment below.

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